On Fun

This is seriously one of the hardest questions of my life. What do I do for fun? What brings me joy? A rush? Relaxation? You know, just fun. If you go back through pictures of me as a girl, a smiling child I am not. I have always been pretty serious.

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As the first year of my doctoral work is coming close to an end (only a month a half left), and I tally up the years I have been in school (twenty-three years, not counting preschool and a break from 02-03), I have come to wonder to what extent I have mistaken work and achievement for fun. Or maybe I have the wrong idea of fun, and some of us are just not wired for fun-as-typically conceived (Is writing a paper fun? This is not clear to me). I used to insist that there was too much suffering in the world and that, in fact, no one should be having fun while there was so much pain. Clearly, I have rethought this. I am all for fun and joy and enjoyment. Perhaps, in some ways, it is what makes the suffering in our lives bearable.

But I just can’t figure out what is fun for me. That doesn’t cost a lot. I like massages and vacations. But these are rare and costly. I like to sleep. I enjoy reading and school and even my work. But does this count as fun? I like to knit, but I wouldn’t say I consider it fun. I guess I am talking about letting lose, vegging, laughing, and truly enjoying it. No guilt that you are not writing your paper cleaning the kitchen volunteering at the church doing taxes or swiffering the floor that hasn’t been cleaned for three weeks.

One of the things that I really do enjoy (enjoy=fun? still unclear to me) is blogging so I am going to try to do that more. Maybe I’ll take up sky diving too. Ha. Just kidding. Oh, aren’t I funny. A riot. So much fun.

How do you have fun?

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8 Responses to On Fun

  1. TheDeeZone says:

    Listening to music, gardening, spending time with my hubby.

  2. It’s an interesting question. I’m pretty sure Julia Cameron has a bunch of exercises on this in Artist’s Way,…

    I’m not sure that enjoying something is the same as having fun. I think fun may need to be playful.

    For me, I have fun writing poetry (though not necessarily writing prose, even when I enjoy it, I couldn’t go as far as to say it’s fun), walking on the beach with Jim, taking our dog Mia to play in the creek, gardening, sex, playing fetch with Mia, water coloring, baking (though not necessarily daily cooking), shopping at the farmer’s market, getting together with friends (this really shouldn’t be so far down on my list because it’s practically #1),

  3. Elizabeth says:

    Good point, Ms. Theologian – Fun may need to be playful. Note to self. Yes, I forgot to add playing with cats, listening (and singing along to) good music, spending time with friends, watching movies, sex, and dreaming of when we will live in the country. And visiting the country where all my family lives. Oh! I’m getting a better list already. Thanks for the input Ms. T and Ms. Dee :)

  4. Jan says:

    I wonder if getting a bad, extended case of hiccups every time you laughed hard as a baby has anything to do with it?

  5. TheDeeZone says:

    I think if you enjoy it, find it relaxing, & non-stressful it should be considered fun.

  6. Such a cute photo, even if you are very serious! My favorite thing to do for fun is spend time with Shai or with close friends.

  7. Ooh, for fun: play games (board games, word games, video games), watch fun movies (as opposed to sobering films), talk with my friends, share stories and jokes, try out new restaurants and food, hang out with my little nieces and nephew, sight-see, and canoodle/etc. with Michael.

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