Article on People With More Than One Partner in

I know a lot of people freak out about Unitarian Universalists that support/advocate/are okay with relationships that are non-monogamous (often called polyamorists, although I guess I tend to avoid that term since it sounds identity-ish – it isn’t like people in monogamous relationships go around calling themselves monogamists… but I digress). Anyway, I tend to think that all the freaking out or abhorrence or whatever of people who aren’t gung-ho about monogamy is a bit dramatic and not that fair. I’ve been meaning to write a post on marriage/the modern (or post-modern) relationship for a while, so perhaps this is a precursor.

All of this just to point out an article in that does (I think) a decent job of de-dramatizing people with multiple romantic partners in their life (or who are open to such constellations). I also read a good article in Tikkun about it a while back Just so no one overreacts, I am not advocating or coming out with an opinion on this – rather, I guess I just feel like relationships, love, traditional marriage, jealousy, monogamy are things that need to be reflected on and assessed. I feel like the whole get married to one partner and stick with that your whole life and be 100% monogamous just isn’t working on a big scale, as evidenced by adultery and divorce rates. I’m not saying non-monogamy is the answer, but rather that we need to consider the current accepted “right” way to do things. These are two reflection pieces around this idea. (I also reviewed a good book on marriage here a while back, which is also part of this overall conversation.)

Also, a note on the blog. I am realizing that I don’t have as much to say as I thought I would. I considered retiring from Elizabeth’s Little Blog, but every once in a while, I DO have something that seems blog worthy. So perhaps that is being downgraded to an occasional blog. It has been that way for a while now, but I suppose I have yet to acknowledge it – always thinking I would get around to posting more often.

8 Responses to Article on People With More Than One Partner in

  1. Chalicechick says:

    First off, I like your blog and would miss it.

    Secondly, I am totally ok with people who believe in commitment doing whatever makes them happy. But at the same time, I really resent the implication that one frequently hears from Poly UUs that since I’m a UU, it’s my job to fight their political battles for them.


  2. Lizard Eater says:

    I like your posts. When you do write, it is quality. I’ll take the wait. :)

    Very interesting topic and one in which I’m still not sure of all my thoughts. I’m completely straight/monogamous/Joe Ordinary, but I have no problem with those who are open to loving more than one person at a time. Assuming all involved are in agreement, I fail to see an ethical problem.

    On the practical side, for our denomination, I’ll admit that I shrink a bit at the thought of UUs being seen as the “anything goes” denomination. But just writing that, it seems bigoted. I’m sure others have used that same sentence when speaking of LGBT issues, race, paganism, etc.

    So … keep writing. And I’ll keep learnin’.

  3. I read that article in Tikkun when it came out and I’ll check out the one in Salon.

    You should keep your blog. I think it’s like any sort of writing. It ebbs and flows.

  4. elizabeth199 says:

    Thanks for the kind words on the blog, all. Yes, I suppose I am just going through a down swing on having much of import to say.

  5. UUpdater says:

    Ditto to most of the comments, I’d hate to see the blog go altogether.

    I know some folks in poly relationships, I totally support their choices. Political, legal, etc. has a totally different set of ramifications. So it’s really hard to say how that should be handled.

  6. Meowia says:

    Don’t retire! Please keep the blog going even if it is less frequent. I check it often to see what you have posted and would really miss it if you gave it up altogether, as well.

    P.S. There’s always kitties…

  7. Matthew says:

    I like your blog. I wish you would post stuff on it more often.

  8. […] with or pulled toward having more than one romantic partner or loves – poly (many) amory (loves). I posted on this a little while back, but not in the context of the independent affiliates discussion, which you can read about here and […]

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